On the 22nd of February, I tied knot with my best friend and love of my life, Kevin Chau. Going through the photos for this post really brought out so much emotion! We have been to many weddings over the years, but in fact none could prepare you for your own in terms of emotion because it is completely different perspective.
There is plenty of wedding information that can be found online but choosing the right and relevant ones is rather not straightforward. I find reading people’s blog posts about their weddings really useful when it comes to planning ours, so I thought I’d share a few bits about mine in case they are helpful to the couples out there.
WEDDING VENUE: EQ HOTEL, KUALA LUMPUR
Our wedding and R.O.M were held at EQ Hotel in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia. The hotel is formerly called Hotel Equatorial which was torn down and rebuilt recently.
Honestly speaking, we took risk booking it because it was still under construction. Thankfully, everything was very well arranged with help of Joanne, who is the Catering Manager throughout the R.O.M ceremony and reception.
R.O.M ceremony and reception were help at Conservatory Room and Diamond ballroom respectively.
No wedding feels complete without decorations. Wedding decorations don't come easy, they are time consuming and require a lot of discussions back and forth with the decorators. We were glad to have chosen Florism De Art and John, See and team really nailed it by demonstrating their top class work.
R.O.M CEREMONY DECOR
Our personalised Neon Sign was the perfect backlight to our reception which the theme was light, sparkle and glam. It looks amazing in all the pictures and sets a lovely glow to the night.
Flowers are essential for all weddings. Keep in mind that flowers can be pricey, so you’ll want to work closely with your decorator to discuss the budget in the beginning. However, not all flowers have to be expensive, those with smaller budgets may consider incorporating more foliage (less expensive) ones to accentuate the flowers that are available.
Pampas grass is a scene stealer when used in bouquets, decor arrangements, ceremony backdrops or arches. Love how my decorator put the pink pampas together with flowers, simple yet stunning!
Color is another important component. The color palette should be consistent with other elements being used throughout the ceremony and reception. Pastel color theme is always my first choice when it comes to wedding decors. Gold is back on-trend, so we decided to go with a mixture of blush and gold. These pastel wedding centrepieces used in our wedding were gorgeous!
Chinese wedding traditions are still very important in modern weddings nowadays especially Kevin and I both come from traditional Chinese family backgrounds. I always wanted to wear Chinese traditional kua like how we have seen it on tv drama not just because it looks good. By wearing the Qun Kua is an symbollic gesture; it marks a new beginning in a woman’s life as she is now married. It is also an auspicious gesture which we believe in blessing newly weds.
The beauty of a kua lies in its embroidered motifs, for which there is even a hierarchy. There is a “King” and “Queen” kua with extremely elaborated embroidery done in gold and silver threads; the sheer extent of embroidery also explains why these tend to look golden or silvery rather than red. I was told that the rental for that can go up to MYR 30k! Those plan for a smaller budget can still go for decent Kua in a couple of bridal shops in KL. I got mine at For Her Wedding Gallery, PJ where it offers a variety choice of Chinese Traditional kua selection.
WHAT THE GROOM SHOULD WEAR?
For the groom, they can match the bride by wearing a male kua (as seen on Kevin). Another option, they can choose to wear a suit with Mandarin collar.
Once you have your date set and venue booked. Next, you will be busy scrolling your Instagram/ Pinterest to look for the right dress. With so many pretty choices out there, you may wonder which dress is the right one for you and you can actually carry it. There is no one perfect dress that suits all body shape. Choosing a dress that suits your body shape and personality is the most important step in finding the right dress.
Lucky for me I got to wear not one but three different dresses for my R.O.M ceremony as well as the wedding reception. All my wedding gowns were from Gelly Wee Wedding Gown. Before you decide on a dress that you're not completely sure about, consider these elements that I have gone through which may simplify your decision-making process.
If you are a petite bride like me, A-line dress will be your pick. Slim on top, fitted through the waist, and softly flaring away from the body. Try looking for one with lesser volume at the skirt or go for a straight silhouette that hugs your figure.
BLUSH FEATHER GOWN
I wanted the dress to be simple and light for my second march-in. After rounds of trial, I've decided to give this blush feather gown a try. Bridal gowns with feathers are still in trend, especially for brides not swayed by the conventional sheath and mermaid wedding gown. Using feathers is one way to make a mystic statement on your special day.
I have always envisioned myself walking down the aisle in a long sleeve princess wedding dress. Ball gown has a boned bodice and a full skirt supported by
crinolines. Once again if you are petite like me, make sure that your ball gown is perfectly tailored to fit your size.
PHOTOGRAPHY & VIDEOGRAPHY
Wedding is one of the most important days in our life. We spend months planning and preparing for this one day and before we know it, it flashes by. One way
to look back at this day is through our wedding photos and videos.
Jae and Wilson were introduced to us by Alan (Kevin's cousin) who is also one of the professional photographers shooting for us on the wedding day. We can’t thank them enough for capturing those fantastic memories of our special day! I will not hesitate in referring them to anyone who is looking for photographers & videographers! All photos posted here were shot by Jae & Alan and our R.O.M & Actual Day videos
below were shot by Wilson & team.
CHINESE TEA CEREMONY
Undoubtedly, Chinese tea ceremony is an important tradition. The serving of tea is an expression of gratitude from children to parents for all their love and support, as well as a gesture of respect and appreciation to their new in-laws. This ceremony also represents a celebration of a new member into respective family.
GATE CRASHING CEREMONY
Thanks to all sporting groomsmen and bridesmaids for making the gatecrashing ceremony memorable. My girls took their whole morning for this opportunity to teach the groomsmen and groom a lesson.
Kevin and I were engaged in October 2018 and decided a long engagement was best given our long-distance relationship and busy schedule. It was the best decision and allowed me more time to plan for the wedding as a major event with hundreds of invitees is quite a challenge in absence of wedding planner. My biggest advice for bride-to-be out there is to keep the meaning of your wedding at the core of planning. While the flowers and décor play an important role, what’s most important is the celebration of love and the unity of two people. Every time when I got stressed out about the wedding, Kevin would remind me that our wedding is about us, don't sweat over petty matters and clearly we would not be able to please everybody. Keeping that in mind helped me to stay calm throughout the months leading up to our big day. I know wedding planning can be overwhelming and stressful at times, but remind yourself to enjoy the journey and know that these moments are fleeting.
We cannot thank our dear friends and family enough for celebrating with us and sending well wishes from afar - WE LOVE YOU GUYS SO MUCH!
Photography: Jae Chia Photography | Videography: Wilson Chew from 90's Cinematography Studio | Venue: EQ Hotel, Kuala Lumpur | Floral & Decor : Florism de Art | Western Gown : Gelly Wee Signature | Men & Women's Chinese Kua : For Her Wedding Gallery | Makeup & Hairdo : Miya Makeup Artist |